3/3 part blog

Those who have actively worked on month1 and month2 of the program, as explained in my articles before above, would have definitely seen change. If not, you can contact me for a guide. Moving on to Month3 

 Your camera is ready and we are going to roll it now. Let’s shoot the interaction in article 2. Eye level talking…minimal use of words. I will continue with my example. You can identify your own interaction at home as you practice more. 

 Eg. Dev sits on his high chair. Mom sits next to him. We are going to feed him. Dev and the parent are at the same eye level. Camera should be fixed on the table at a level it can record both the faces- Dev and parent. It can be hidden preferably. The video front camera should NOT be used. We want the child and parent’s full attention. 

 Let the camera be ON when you bring Dev to the table. He now looks at the camera and tries to reach for it. 

It has happened to all. You slowly get up and slowly remove it from his hands and place it away from his reach. You can put the high chair belt. He will cry for a while but will settle down. If he doesn’t settle…provide a firm comfort by lovingly holding his hand tight….if you are able to hug…it’s the best. Do all actions very slowly and looking at Dev. 

Let him assimilate what is happening around him. You have to mean it. His reading of emotion especially negative emotion would be high because of past memory. We will work to slowly erase that memory in our ASDBUDDY method. We will not snatch the camera from him. We remove it gently as we look into his eyes and calmly give a non-verbal prompt that its ok….let it go. Hold the camera…don’t pull….dont let go either. Just wait. He will let go. (Wait times can go upto 5 min of active waiting) 

 Now, we are ready to feed him….we have done it successfully many times….Yes you have. But you always wish he chews betters, you wish he eats a variety and you wish he relishes what he eats ! He will ..very soon. 

1. You will feed only when he looks. No talking. You will not give a single spoon of food unless he looks at you. You will wait. You are near him and you are doing nothing else. There is nothing which can distract him around. The only sounds in the room are about the meal he is being fed. (After 2 weeks-try point 2 below) 

2. You child will now look at what he is eating. He will now create a memory about the taste of the food. A memory about which meal of the day it came in. A memory about his parent who fed him slowly, giving him ample time. (After 2 weeks of 1 and 2…you can do point 3) 

3. You can now model chewing…by showing him how you chew….when he is looking. He will learn now. This is a process of building an activity with the underlying idea of guiding the child successfully to mastery. I suggest, pick a food he does NOT hate. Switch off camera when done. 

 As a guideline, Point1 – will take a min of 20 min usually for a 3 year old child. It can go upto an hr with only half a meal getting completed. So, why did we record? Review: Let me know why, and I will write in detail in the next article. You will find many challenges when you try what I am writing here, do ask me. Some issues may be against all principles you have followed, its ok, trust me, this works. 

Please do try the activities as I have provided at the most tactical level possible from the theoretical level which usually we receive. Hope it is helping. Do let me know by “Following” ASDBUDDY and letting me know your experiences in the comments.